This year, I’m aiming to continue living a healthy lifestyle and making an effort to travel more than the average 24-year-old. I’m currently learning that adulthood is not a formula – that the checklist for one person to consider themselves successful looks quite different from another’s.
For instance, I recently ran into an old friend who boasted about nearing a six-figure income. I could tell he expected me to be envious, but I was honestly indifferent. I was happy for him, but it didn’t make me feel unaccomplished because a six-figure income isn’t my goal.
I recently saw a post on instagram about a girl who was ecstatic over reaching her goal of owning a house before she turned 25, 6 months before actually. I mentally calculated how long until my 25th birthday – less than six months. I panicked internally for a moment and then remembered that I have no interest in owning property that ties me to a place (yet).
Heck, Alyssa, writer of (alyssapadgett.com), seems to think that because I have a exercise routine down that I have my life together. Whereas I think she has her life together because she adheres to a consistent posting schedule.
I’ve continued to see a number of engagements, weddings and birth announcements via social media and while I am wildly happy for all of those who are checking the boxes that lead to self-fulfillment; it’s hard not to compare lists. Especially when we’re all broadcasting them online. It’s easy to post when my calendar is full of exciting events, but when things are slow, the writer’s block hits and I got nothin.
I recently came across Strayer University’s Readdress Success program. Their goal being to change the literal definition of success in the dictionary from“the fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect, or fame” to “happiness derived from good relationships, and achieving personal goals.” I grew up believing in the latter definition, but it can be difficult to embrace when our success is constantly measured in terms of numbers: money, followers, views, etc.
I’m challenging myself to stay in my own lane, to set my own goals rather than take up someone else’s. I’m also challenging myself to speak up during those lows, if only to remind people that I spend more time working from home in sweats than I do chasing my wanderlust. I’m challenging myself to continue to “do me” and not measure my success as a blogger/youtuber on the number of views, but rather on the depth of impact.
But don’t hate me when I’m blogging from Brazil. (;